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Jo Chap's avatar

36 years of recovery 30 years as a therapist. I went from FTW to FTW. Both were protective. One to protect my heroin coke booze. The next to protect my desire to live. I think I noticed that people actually cared but even after all the changes many still view me as my drug self. Odd but not my problem at all.

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Anna McDonald's avatar

Beautifully written. Thank you ❤️

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Stacey's avatar

Thank you for this article, Mia. Can you talk sometime specifically about those early days of quitting and your relationship with your husband? How/if it affected the way you spent time together, etc.

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Mia's avatar

Hi Stacey, thanks for being here. I can certainly go into that. I will answer it fully in a new newsletter. XX M

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Tracey Nguyen's avatar

This is so true and powerful! ❤️🙏🏻

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elle_b's avatar

loved this tip/article!

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Mia's avatar

thank you!

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Carrie Wyse's avatar

That last line is the bomb! ❤️

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Mia's avatar

Because we know it is so damn true! xoxo m

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Suzanne's avatar

This absolutely resonates. As a 6 months and handful of days sober person, I’m becoming aware of where I choose to use my energy. Your description of “energy leaks” are spot on: those small drains add up and I will now be more conscious of when they happen and plugging them when needed!

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Mia's avatar

Its definitely a daily check-in with ourselves and tuning in to how we feel in every situation as well as taking responsibility for it when it does happen....that's the real work :) xx M

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Sarah's avatar

Thank you for sharing! I’m over 7 months in now and trying to stop myself from being the one who draws more attention to the fact that I’m not drinking. It really hasn’t been a big deal at all to others in my life and that’s surprising but also... not really.

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Mia's avatar

I love the self observation Sarah. It didn’t take long for me to realize the same. After the initial conversations about it, it usually was a non-issue. And it was never as big of a deal as I thought it would be...one way or the other ;)

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