Hello. I’m not sure how long it’s been quit or even if you have quit, your article isn’t clear about that however, I would love to hear more! I celebrate one year sober for the third time in my life August 15, 2023. I found a community but I had to outsource it because like you, the envious drinkers would never want me to leave the cult. I found a community, threw the book at it (read all the quit lits) and don’t participate in the disease model of AA, rather I subscribe rather to the alcohol-is-poison model. It’s been 1 of my most authentic years.
I shaved my head on my 50th birthday. Loved saving the 140 minutes/week not styling it. Two years in my husband solemnly requested that I grow my hair. I still had a choice but I chose to grow it and I like my hair now but I’m also glad I did it.
Loved your article. Obviously I relate!!!
(My substack is called Chase that rabbit, my goodbye Alcohol letter might interest you..) thanks so much for the good read.
So true (and expertly written) Mia. It reminds me of a quote by Tom Robbins "we waste time waiting for the perfect lover instead of creating the perfect love." Been following you a while now, I'm almost 7 years sober. And lately, very very grey! It's my middle name, so I'm just embracing it. As an aside, people are all into gut this, gut that these days and it's still a struggle to follow our own. Thank you for your content.
I struggle every single day with thoughts re my drinking. There is a resistance in me I do not entirely understand. I have this amazing list of all of the things I want to do instead of drinking but something keeps me from taking that step. I think it’s a matter of not wanting to be visible. The one person I have consistently talked to about it is my hairstylist!
It’s so weird to want something so much but unable to just take that step fully. I have definitely cut back so much but I do not want it to be part of the equation.
Thank you for your words, honesty, thoughts, insights. This is really the only space I can connect... said the therapist. 🤕
I think anyone who has quit drinking for good or for any amount of decent time, has had this same struggle. As I share often, it didn't just happen for me overnight. I literally daydreamed about the person I could be if I wasn't wasting all my time partying and recovering.
I know you may feel confused and frustrated, but I have zero doubt that when you make the final decision to fully quit, there will be no looking back.
thank you
Hello. I’m not sure how long it’s been quit or even if you have quit, your article isn’t clear about that however, I would love to hear more! I celebrate one year sober for the third time in my life August 15, 2023. I found a community but I had to outsource it because like you, the envious drinkers would never want me to leave the cult. I found a community, threw the book at it (read all the quit lits) and don’t participate in the disease model of AA, rather I subscribe rather to the alcohol-is-poison model. It’s been 1 of my most authentic years.
I shaved my head on my 50th birthday. Loved saving the 140 minutes/week not styling it. Two years in my husband solemnly requested that I grow my hair. I still had a choice but I chose to grow it and I like my hair now but I’m also glad I did it.
Loved your article. Obviously I relate!!!
(My substack is called Chase that rabbit, my goodbye Alcohol letter might interest you..) thanks so much for the good read.
Thank you for showing up and sharing your journey and thoughts on your journey. I very much appreciate all you do!
Thank you Sherry. XX m
So true (and expertly written) Mia. It reminds me of a quote by Tom Robbins "we waste time waiting for the perfect lover instead of creating the perfect love." Been following you a while now, I'm almost 7 years sober. And lately, very very grey! It's my middle name, so I'm just embracing it. As an aside, people are all into gut this, gut that these days and it's still a struggle to follow our own. Thank you for your content.
Thank you for being here and for engaging. And welcome to the grey side :) and I love that quote, definitely an eye opener.
I struggle every single day with thoughts re my drinking. There is a resistance in me I do not entirely understand. I have this amazing list of all of the things I want to do instead of drinking but something keeps me from taking that step. I think it’s a matter of not wanting to be visible. The one person I have consistently talked to about it is my hairstylist!
It’s so weird to want something so much but unable to just take that step fully. I have definitely cut back so much but I do not want it to be part of the equation.
Thank you for your words, honesty, thoughts, insights. This is really the only space I can connect... said the therapist. 🤕
I think anyone who has quit drinking for good or for any amount of decent time, has had this same struggle. As I share often, it didn't just happen for me overnight. I literally daydreamed about the person I could be if I wasn't wasting all my time partying and recovering.
I know you may feel confused and frustrated, but I have zero doubt that when you make the final decision to fully quit, there will be no looking back.
You've got this one life.....
xx
M
Our hair and social life (drinking) and our relationship with our hairstylist can be so, err...tangled!
Oh I was shocked with how similar these two "quit" journeys were!