I’m currently a non-drinker married to a problem drinker. Drinking has been most of our blow up, D word fights. I decided to focus on my wellness and ignore him when he’s drinking. I’m very clear with him, i have no interest in being around him when he is drinking or hung over. I’m about 7 weeks alcohol free. I have stopped telling him to stop drinking but, I continue to hope he sees the positive changes in me and seeks them for himself. It’s hard.
This story resonated w me so much. The slow, barely perceptible slide from recreational drinker to problem drinker. My long term relationship did not survive the transition from ‘drinking together’ to me being sober. I hope that won’t be the case here, but whatever happens you will have fostered an emotional resilience over your sobers years to survive it ❤️
I’m currently a non-drinker married to a problem drinker. Drinking has been most of our blow up, D word fights. I decided to focus on my wellness and ignore him when he’s drinking. I’m very clear with him, i have no interest in being around him when he is drinking or hung over. I’m about 7 weeks alcohol free. I have stopped telling him to stop drinking but, I continue to hope he sees the positive changes in me and seeks them for himself. It’s hard.
This story resonated w me so much. The slow, barely perceptible slide from recreational drinker to problem drinker. My long term relationship did not survive the transition from ‘drinking together’ to me being sober. I hope that won’t be the case here, but whatever happens you will have fostered an emotional resilience over your sobers years to survive it ❤️